Moments

Quite some time has passed since my last post. I could use work as an excuse, I've pulled a lot of overtime in the past month or so. I could blame home.  My husband is struggling right now, battling something of his own. But that's his story to tell. I could just say life has gotten in the way, as it tends to do. But really I probably just got lazy.

However, here I am. Staring at a white screen trying to organize my thoughts that seem so scatterbrained lately. Life has been difficult. My plate seems full. Yet every time I think it can't get harder, it does. So I'm going to quit saying that. Pity party table of 1 needs to vacate the premises because life could be much harder. As it is for a very dear friend of mine right.

I got a phone call on Saturday that no friend.... that no one... wants. One of my very best friend's had  her world turned upside down with the tragic passing of her husband. A man who would have helped anyone... literally... as he passed away trying to assist strangers. He left behind not only his wife, but their two small children; ages 2 & 3.

The unfairness of the situation unnerves me. The lack of understanding unsettles me. And the fact that life is so unpredictable and short has shaken me to the core. I just keep staring at everything around me, it all looks the same, smells the same, and to unknowing passerby's it feels the same, but it's not. And it won't ever be. Especially for their young family.

I cannot imagine life without my husband. The mere thought makes my stomach curdle. Yet we are quick to fuss and fight over every day trivial things. We are quick to blame one another. Quick to roll an eye or scoff. For what purpose? For what gain? If I've learned anything over the past three days, it's that life is far too short. We should be quicker to kiss a little longer, hug a little tighter, linger a little longer. We are the lucky ones. The fortunate few. Every day we get with one another is a day longer than some.

I take life for granted too often. I complain too much about things that don't really matter in the grand scheme. I will be forever sadden that it has taken this life event for my eyes to open. My heart literally breaks in a million pieces every time I think of what "normal" will be for their family now.  But every day ahead is an opportunity to seize the moment.

He would have wanted that, encouraged it even. He was a great man, who played hard and loved his family harder.

I hope you're drinking a good beer buddy. You deserve it.

Whew!

The Facini household had a JAM PACKED weekend. I can hardly believe it's 9:00pm on Sunday night. Friday after worked kicked off a bunch of running around that we neglected all week. Saturday, our day started bright and early--the husband took the Peanut to her Zumbini class and I helped set up for a bridal shower for an awesome lady! We had a 1pm birthday party for a dude that I can't believe is 10 followed by dinner with my brother and sister -in-law. Saturday night I did some last minute things for the bridal shower followed by a full day of wedding shower bliss today. I did squeeze in some outdoor time with my favorite people tonight, while the weather was still nice. The husband picked up shrimp for dinner and after concocting our own barbecue sauce, he made us grilled barbecue shrimp for dinner. He handled bedtime for the Peanut tonight so I could catch up with a good friend and fold a trillion loads of laundry.  Whew! I need a weekend from my weekend.

I've been meaning to post about our Towson weekend with friends and Valentine's Day but things have been crazy in our house. I feel like I haven't been home in a month. As evidence by the state of my house right now. Hell, if the husband and I didn't tag team laundry today, we'd be buying clothes to wear tomorrow.

Things are headed to a slower pace, we have no plans this upcoming weekend and I'm keeping it that! My house is going to get a good cleaning and I'm going to spend some quality time with my little lady and husband.

I'm Still Learning

Last week was a tough one for the husband and myself. 2.5 years into our marriage we had our second big fight. Now we bicker all the time, what married couple doesn't, but this was a days long, can't fully sleep, can't really eat, just plain crappy fight. After a night of overindulging, we had the kind of argument that I'm glad to call a rarity in our marriage. But, to perfectly honest, I'm glad we had it out. Why? I took away a lot of valuable lessons.

I've been with the husband since I was 12 years old. To say I know him like the back of my hand would be an understatement. But, we don't share a brain. Unless we communicate, regularly and effectively, my knowledge of him is a moot point. It's possible and highly likely that I say one thing and he thinks I mean another. Unless he asks for clarification, or I offer it, a small thing can run a long train.

The husband and I talk a lot. Every day. Through different mediums. Email, text, phone, in-person and some times through social media. But it's mundane, every day, what's for dinner kind of talk. We need to do a better job of communicating... in-person. So the lines aren't blurred. So the tone of an email isn't misconstrued, so facial expressions can be read, so follow up questions can be asked.

Our conversations need to be more than just the mundane aspects of life... more in-depth about what's going on with us. We often graze over issues when speaking in-person, only to fire off an email the next day. When we finally sat down on Sunday/Monday night and talked things through, after a week of ass-half fighting, we both felt relieved. We both smiled genuine smiles. And we both woke up this morning feeling a helluva a lot better than any day last week.

Lastly this weekend taught me not to take my husband for granted, to appreciate his small acts of kindness, to always validate his feelings, even if I don't agree with them. 15 years together, almost 3 married and we're still learning. Every day. I'm proud of that. When things get old or stale, when we stop fighting as passionately as we love, then I'll be worried. For now, just par for the course.

We had a pretty awesome weekend despite that minor the hiccup. More to come on that later.

Kumbaya

I follow a ton of blogs; parenting, home improvement, cooking, single, married, animal lovers... you name it and there is probably a blog on my Digg reader that will align with your request. I also occasionally read viral blog posts. Some are funny, some are tear jerkers and some just make me shake my head. One viral post I've seen around social media lately centers around anti-marriage and anti-parenting. This has sparked a number of rebuttal blog posts, this being one. Sort of.

I don't get it. I really don't. What is about other folks lives that people wish to critique so harshly. So what if you don't want to get married, so what if you don't want to to have kids. What makes it your job to convince the rest of the world that your lifestyle is 'the chosen one'? And on the same token, if you want to have an army of little minions. Kudos to you. If you want to live on the water with six cats and a parrot...that's your prerogative. It's like single folks, married folks and parental folks can't co-exist. If you're in one category, you can't fit in another. Friends vs. Seinfeld-esque.We spend most of our lives fitting in, ticking off boxes on forms. Why must we constantly remind one another about it. More so, why must we prove our way is the better way.

I have a large base of friends that are all in different places in life. Some are single and traveling the world, some are happily married with animals they treat like family, some are already on their third child. Their lifestyle choices do not impact me, you, or the girl next door.

There are aspects in life that carry more flavor from one phase to the next. Was life without my Peanut easier? Sure, in some regards. But life without Tucker was more carefree, too. Does that mean I regret one phase of life after I've moved past it? Of course not. I live and breathe my husband and Peanut (and Tucker). I absolutely, would not want to live this life without any of them. And one day in our future we will hopefully add on our to family. Will we miss life with just one child? Maybe aspects of it. But we certainly won't regret bringing another life into this world.

There are no instructions in life. You cannot follow one set of directions and be guaranteed a desired outcome. You can follow your gut, you can make the best decisions possible, you can pray often but at the end of the day, life is never quite like you plan it. It can be perfect one day and a storm the next. Life is too complicated and too hard to constantly beat others up because of their lifestyle choices. I've spent too much time in my life worrying about things I cannot control. How someone else should live their life, or shouldn't live their life, is none of my business, your business and it sure as hell isn't the neighbor's business.

So this is an ode to singles, married, single with kids, married without kids, traditional families, non-traditional families and every walk of life in between. Live your own life. Be happy with the choices you make. If you're not happy with your choices, change them. Surround yourself with people who love you for you, not what you do or don't bring to the table. In the words of Florida Georgia Line (who put on an amazing concert by the way) "This life I live it might not be for you, but it's for me though"

The Rage

The rage around town is Wine and Design. A novice painting class that involves wine. Paint+wine=a beautiful evening. I had the chance to paint Christmas trees back in December, this month I painted a sunset over/into a bridge, next month (actually February is tomorrow!) I'm joining my sister-in-law's family and some friends at a class, in March my girlfriend is doing her own version of wine and design at her house and in April (yes, my calendar is actually booked until April), my family is planning one. See, I told you, all the rage!

The Christmas trees were not too difficult. I drank more wine than anything and the painting still ended up looking pretty decent. Last night, after not having dinner, I slowed my roll on the wine intake. My painting....well let's just say I won't be displaying it in a widely visible area in my house. Clearly the answer to my creativity is wine.... the wine inspires the creative juices to flow as freely as the wine I suppose.

Looking forward to a few more fun sessions. Pretty soon I won't have to buy any art for our house ;)

Trauma for Momma...

Yesterday was gorgeous. Not that you would know it by the crisp, blustery air or snow on the ground this evening, but it was. 55 and sunny. Good, no great, weather for January.  The husband, Peanut and myself enjoyed a work-free day courtesy of Mr. Martin Luther King so we took advantage of the blue skies and headed to the play area nearby. My thrill loving Peanut enjoyed the slides immensely, as did her giggle loving daddy. All was fine and well until we returned home. Our adrenaline running Peanut kept going at a uber fast pace. She went head over heels and caught herself with her face. Insert lots of blood. Insert lots of crying.

And then it was over. As soon as it started. The crying subsided...from both of us...and after a few extra snuggles my girl proudly walked away with her first fat lip. It's not pretty but she wears it well.

Just like that we conquered our first boo-boo. Leaping, literally, into toddlerhood. One giant fall at a time.

Role Model

Last night the Seahawks defeated the Niners for a shot at a Superbowl ring. The last play of the game was an explosive one; Seahawks Cornerback Richard Sherman tipped the ball away from Niners Receiver Michael Crabtree and the ball was eventually intercepted by the Seahawks. The game ends, Sherman offers Crabtree his hand and a small scuffle ensues, followed by some colorful hand gestures. (If you're not a football fan, stick with me, I'm going somewhere with this.) Afterward, Sherman delivers an interview that will probably be as infamous as Suh's stomping. He called Crabtree a sorry receiver and deemed himself the best corner in the "game", all the while forgetting that his team assisted in the victory that paved the road to New York. The internet lit on fire, with opponents and advocates alike buzzing about. My Facebook feed alone was littered with post after post about Sherman.

I've seen arguments on both sides of the Sherman interviews; advocates claiming "the heat of the moment", opponents claiming "athletes should show more professionalism". More than likely Sherman will be fined for his sign language. His remarks, while demeaning toward Crabtree, did not contain foul language. From the standpoint of "punishments", they will probably go unnoticed. Guess what, I couldn't care less either way. And here's why: Sherman is just another person with an opinion. Would the world care if a similar situation happened in a pick-up football game? Of course not. Because those pick-up players aren't in the national spotlight, paid millions of dollars a year. Worse is said, I'm certain, on playgrounds every school day.

I understand that many children look up to athletes, in fact my husband idolized Cal Ripken growing up. The sun rose and set on him. Hell, it still might. But the point I'm belaboring is, our children's first line of role models should be their parents. My child's reaction to an exciting or discouraging event will more than likely be a reflection of how I would/do react. As it should. My child shouldn't have to watch the television to have their morals and character shaped. That's what I'm here for.

Every day, in every situation I'm in, I think to myself how do I/will I want the Peanut to react. Obviously I'm not perfect (skip backward two posts, you'll read all about that) and she has repeated her fair share of unpleasant words but overall I can say I would be happy if she treated folks how she sees me treat them. There have been plenty of situations over her 18 months that I would have liked to overreact or make a ruckus about certain things but I told myself the day I found out I was pregnant with her, my child will show grace and humility in this life. Lost character traits in many these days, but in her, I will instill these.

One day a little thirteen year old girl (or boy) is going to say something mean about her, it will probably make her cry and she will want to retaliate. But my hope is that she has the poise to continue about her way, with little regard to these hurtful comments. People are cruel. This world is unfair. Life is how you make it. You can hold your head up high or you can hold a grudge. Life is too short to care about how one person thinks about one thing you said or did.

Sherman couldn't care less about how I feel about his reactions, nonetheless what the rest of the world thinks. He has one thing on his mind and that happens in two weeks. Hopefully by then the media around his post game interview will have died down. But knowing the new face of journalism, the hype has just begun...

A Weekend Away

In 2005, I started working at the University Store, which happens to be the bookstore for Towson University. Three months into the job I was promoted to a student manager; meaning I "managed" a group of cashiers (who also happened to be my peers). One of my coworkers, upset that I was promoted ahead of her, transferred out of my area. Flash forward to that coworker having a terrible breakup with her then boyfriend and essentially being homeless and needing a place to stay and you're caught up to how I became friends with one of my best gals. Yes, a rocky start for us for sure I'd say. But, her debacle was the beginning of beautiful friendship. One that has weathered many, many ups and downs. One that has seen graduations, job promotions, health issues, new houses, births, deaths and everything in between. One that no amount of life changes or distance could break.

In 2006 on a Saturday morning, while "managing" the bookstore, I met a girl who had had a rough night. Hungover or possibly still drunk on that Saturday morning, I was not impressed with her math skills or lack thereof. In fact, if you would have told me that day that she would turn out to be one of my best friends, I would have laughed. No way. But that's what you get for judging a book by its cover. Because she is. One of the first people I call with good news, bad news and everything in between. A friendship that is mutually unconditional without expectations.

Life has taken us all in different directions since 2008/2009 when we all graduated college. Our time together is often limited but it's always a good time when we are together. Last weekend was no exception. The Peanut and I trekked up to West Virginia, with Rachel in tow, to visit Mallorie and scope out her new house. For hours we sat and chatted and caught up on the comings and goings of life. And even though my trip was short, it was exactly what I needed. Those gals always have a fresh perspective or an encouraging word.

Even better, I arrived home to this...

Chalkboard Calendar on our Wall

 My awesome husband got this done while I was away! It's been so handy to have this on our wall. And now that he's shown interest in home projects, I've lined up a ton for him.

I was also able to finish our play room and our Peanut is loving it.

Last weekend was a productive one. Hoping our 4 day weekend proves to be just as productive (and maybe a smidge more relaxing). Date night tomorrow night! Woo hoo!

New Year, New Us...Maybe

I am getting T.E.R.R.I.B.L.E at this blog posting business. But at least my post will be jam packed, much like my life lately. Yes, my New Years resolutions are failing already... more to that later.

Christmas fun!

Christmas Eve All  Dressed Up

First and foremost...Christmas! To our (ahem) shock, the Peanut was spoiled. With a Toys r Us satellite store downstairs and a Carters warehouse upstairs, she is set. Some highlights from the day were the cottage that Uncle David and Aunt Melissa gifted to her, (She loves to shut the door on daddy and the dog and wave "bye bye". If only she is still kicking guys out of our basement in 15 years, my husband will be so lucky ;)) the ball pit, a bike and a picnic set from my husband's aunt.

        

 Christmas, albeit, crazy was fun and full of family and food. All kinds of f's that I like. Christmas passed as quickly as it came and we kicked off the New Year at friends' house surrounded by a ton of fun folks. And since New Years Day we have been non-stop going. Remember that resolution I posted? About saying no more. Yeah. Hasn't happened, but it will, and soon. Next weekend the husband and I are taking some QT for us. Some time to reconnect and enjoy an adult beverage or two together. For more than a half an hour...after the Peanut's bedtime (and before ours)

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Speaking of busy... we took a time out for a little sledding. On my day off Mr. Winter made an appearance and granted us with enough snow to sled down the hill behind our house. The Peanut loved the sled and was super sad (meltdown commence) when we came back inside. Lucky for her, our old neighbors visited later in the day and couldn't wait to take her back out in it! The day after our mini-snowstorm, a pair of our college friends came to visit as to watch Towson in their football championship. Even though we lost miserably, it was fun to root our college team on. And the Peanut looked uber cute in her tiger gear. Their expecting a little one of their own and we are super excited to welcome Baby W in a few short months!

The last update I can think of since the two and a half weeks I posted is about the house. What a different the house looks like post Christmas. The walls are bare once more and screaming for decoration. While I cannot decide on the living room (besides a pretty sweet decal I'm waiting on), the dining room is waiting on the commissioning of one more painting from our favorite Baltimore artist to be complete and the Peanut's play room is also just about finished. The handprint rug is now on the floor, the art wall is one letter away from looking awesome and the chalkboard labels for her bins are waiting for me to put them on. I hung pictures in our upstairs hallway and I'm collecting frames for the gallery wall staircase.  Lots of progress, but a lot of projects left to be done. 

Speaking of projects, if my husband is around on Sunday (he won his fantasy football league, well actually several leagues, and is going to collect his trophy belt this weekend) we have plans to do this to the wall in our kitchen:

And hopefully, maybe if I'm lucky, this :

 I must have been a pretty awesome kid this year because I, too, got a bike for Christmas! More pictures to come of our house projects!

All in all, the past two and a half weeks or so have been wonderfully busy. Looking forward to calmer weeks as we leap into the New Year with loads of fun stuff planned. Stay tuned.

I Am Not Perfect

The secret is out. I'm not perfect. I'm not the perfect wife, mother, daughter, sister, cousin or friend. There I said it. And I'm proud of it. I try so hard to make each and every person in my life happy that I often neglect my own happiness. That's not to say I'm not selfish from time to time because I most certainly am but the long and short of it... I'm not perfect.

Sometimes I forget to call when I'm suppose to, sometimes I have to cancel plans and sometimes I say things without thinking them through. Just this week I've rescheduled a phone date twice. Sue me. I'm human. Raising another human. Married to one. Daughter and daughter in law to three and friends with many. My life is chaotic on the best day, thanks to the tiny human (whom I love more than life itself).

My point to this, I think, is that one of my New Years Eve resolutions is to stop caring about pleasing everyone. If I can't make it to something because the tiny human has me otherwise preoccupied, so be it. If the human I'm married to needs a little us time , I will forgo the beeping calendar. While I would never intentionally causes discord between someone else and myself, from time to time I find myself there and I'm often anxiety ridden because of it. Life is too short. Things happen. Other things come up. I'm not perfect. I can't be all to everyone on the same day.

2014 is going to be a good year. I can feel it. Leaping into a New Year with positive thoughts.

New Reflection, New Year Resolution

I was looking back over my New Years resolutions from last year and I've fallen short of just about every one of them. This year has been a whirlwind, to say the least.  A career change for each of us, a major move and then another move,  and a baby growing up at the speed of light.

1). I will say I half checked off the first resolution to be more appreciative. Maybe even three-fourths.  I have really worked on appreciating my husband and mom more. I've tried to say thank you (and really mean it) twice as much as usual. The other night I asked my husband to do a task I knew he hated and then quickly told him I would take care of it, just because I knew he hated doing it and it was one small thing I could do.

2). Over extending myself. Major fail. Some days I feel like my head might spin off I'm so busy trying to fit my schedule together like a perfectly shaped puzzle.

3). Read 100 books. I read about 60. Not terrible. I'm actually pretty happy with that even if it fell short of my goal.

4). Lose 10 pounds. I'm pretty sad I couldn't lose 10 lbs in 12 months but it is what it is. Yoga is still calling my name...

5). Spend more time with my husband. I can check this off. We've taken a bunch of mini trips and spent some good quality time together this year.

I'm making just one resolution this year. To be more present in life.  To stop rushing so much. I am uber guilty of squeezing this in here and that there and not really being "there" for any of it. I'm going to not live life behind a screen. To put my phone down more often and connect with people in real time. Life is too short; I would rather make memories than "like" memories. 2013 was a great, stressful, whirlwind of a year. Bring on 2014; I'm ready to leap into a new year. After we celebrate Christmas, of course!

Weekends Fly By

The Facini's had one of the busiest weekends we've had in awhile. Friday night we took a trip to Ann Marie Gardens to check out the Christmas light display. It was worth every penny of our admission fee. If you're ever in the Southern Maryland area around Christmas time, I highly, highly recommend it. We spent the rest of Friday night cleaning and getting the house ready for our weekend guests.

Saturday, after the Peanut's last Zumbini class (we're so sad it's over but can't wait for it to start back up again! She loves it and so do I actually!) our friends from Baltimore came to visit for the night. We had a nice dinner out and they hung out with our Peanut for a bit so the husband and I could stop by my work Christmas party. After making an appearance, we came back to kill our livers for the night. I could elaborate on that but I'll plead the fifth. The empty whiskey/wine bottles can do the talking if they want... Sunday, today, was cookie making day. My mom, the Peanut and myself spent the day baking cookies and making a mess. We're experts at both after today! After all the cookie making, we took a time out to go out to dinner and then visit another light display. Such fun memories we're making with the Peanut.

And now we're prepping for tonight...if you've been reading my blog for awhile you might see a common theme-- my kid hates to sleep. HATES to sleep. My mom swears it's payback from when I was a baby. Apparently, discriminating against sleep is genetic. In fact, as I type this my child is in her crib screaming. After two months of letting her sleep in our bed and still not getting a good night's sleep, we're trying a new tactic. Per my husband. I still don't know if I have the will power to do it. Yep, you know exactly where I'm headed with this-- the cry it out method. I'm fine letting her initially cry herself to sleep, but in the middle of the night when she wakes up, half disoriented from being partially awake and cries out for us I'm not so sure I'm made for letting her cry it out. We'll see... I'm going to try my best.

As I finished typing the above paragraph, the screaming stopped. I better to head to bed now...I feel like it's going to be a long night. Enjoy a couple pictures I remember to take this weekend. I've been pretty terrible at that.

Good Times Applesauce

My weekly, biweekly posts have been stagnant. Oops. Life has just been nuts. And I used to post at work during my lunch break but given my new job, blogger isn't actually a preferred website. Shocker. Haha.

But back to our regularly tuned updates-- our Peanut is walking! All over the place!! She's still not sleeping through the night-- I'm fairly sure she doesn't want a sibling, but she's walking

She's repeating, or at least trying to repeat so much of what we say we've had to really start watching WHAT we say. The general public would probably frown upon our 17 month old shouting "Oh shit".

My new job is awesome. It's finally picked up and 9 hour days are flying by. My boss is really nice and my coworkers seem pretty nice too.

Over the weekend we visiting the Big Apple. The hubby and I spent the day wandering around the City, enjoying the local cuisine and touristy spots, including a little ice skating in Central Park. It was great to get away with him for the day. Even if we didn't get home until 3am the next morning and our Peanut was up at 7am.

Last night I took a time out from mommyhood and enjoyed "Wine and Design". You sip (or in my case, gulp) wine and paint a picture. While I won't be switching careers anytime soon, it was so much fun and it was great to catch up with some girlfriends.

Life has been pretty great lately. Thank you Jesus for things leveling out. I was starting to get a little nervous.

After a busy weekend, Daddy and Peanut nap

She loves Jimmy Fallon

Check out SMC Wine and Design

Well... We Moved!

It's been an amazingly wild couple of weeks in the Facini household. I started my new job two weeks ago and we moved into the new house this past weekend. Our weekend was filled with cardboard boxes, family, friends and 200 trips up and down my new stairs.

While the house is 90% unpacked, the walls are still bare and lacking our touch. Soon enough. I have the next 30+ years to get this house exactly the way I want it. I'm just enjoying having my own space again.

I have thought of a millions topics to post about in the last two weeks but life has just been so crazy I haven't had a chance to put them into anything.

Pictures and better posts forthcoming. But for now, the Facini's have leaped into their new home and couldn't be happier. Okay, maybe slightly happier if the Peanut would sleep through the night but ya know, one thing at a time.

It's Almost Christmas

Where has the time gone? This year has FLOWN by, faster than last year I think. How am I Christmas shopping? Slowly, I'm checking each person off our list (thank you, Amazon!). Saving a portion of it for Black Friday shopping. I LOVE Black Friday shopping.

In years past, we've wanted something particular that caused us to stand in line like fools, fighting amongst the other crazies. However, the past year or two, I've just gone for fun. I think we did score a TV last year and this year I'll be checking out toys for the Peanut but we don't really need anything. Especially anything worth buying at 2am. I will be scouting a new Christmas tree this year so...  But hey, middle of the night shopping is half the fun.

Afterwards, we usually have a French Toast breakfast at my Grandma's. This year, I believe I will be working so a cup of coffee will have to replace my usually grandiose breakfast.

Christmas, holy crap, it's almost here!

Hindsight

If I could write a letter to my 18 year old self I would highlight:

- don't take your car out the night mom told you not to and you complained to dad and he let you. It will cost you three weeks in the shop and a running joke about mailboxes for the next decade.

- trust mom and dad when they tell you you're going to hate the cold, depressing weather of frostburg. It will save you a 2am phone call and two college switches. And even though they didn't say it right away, you will hear the words I told you so.

-always be true to your high school sweetheart. One day you're going to marry him and have his little girl. Those "games" you two played as teenagers will be for naught. He is the one. Always was. Always will be.

- have more patience with your boyfriends mom, your future mother in law. One day you will wish you could see her eyes roll at you.

- don't gossip and don't hold a grudge. Forgive and forget and move on. Life is easier this way.

-say you're sorry when you've wronged someone. And you will. Learn from those moments and don't repeat the same mistakes.

- find your faith earlier. You will rely heavily on it. Trust in God. You may never know why. It doesn't matter. There is a bigger plan you are apart of.

-stay out of the tanning bed. Stay. Out.

- put your best foot forward in every situation. This way you won't look back and say I wish I would have done it differently.

- don't let the orthodontist talk you in to taking your braces off early. You will spend almost three grand 6 years later.

-have the awkward conversation you hate so much. Silence is worse in the long run. Trust me.

-family is family. Always, always put them first.

-soak up the moments you love so much. They will be gone before you know it and make great memories. Live life in the moment not behind a phone screen.

-you are only going to regret what you do not do or say.

-you are going to stumble and fall. You are going to make mistakes. Get back up and hold your head high. Don't let those moments define you. One day your going to grow up. Life is still going to be hard but you have an amazing husband, supportive family and great friends. Enjoy the ride.

So What Wednesday?

So what if:

The Peanut has been sleeping in bed with us- Momma needs her sleep to and if the Peanut cuddling up next to me gets me 5 straight hours of sleep, so be it. I was so sleep deprived last night I didn't care if we slept outside. So long as we were both sleeping.

The laundry is taller than me - I'll get to it. Not tonight, because it's date night! But I'll get to it. We all have clean underwear, for now. Hell, I need to clean my bathroom too, but that's on the bottom end of the to-do list as well.

I'm a ball of anxiety now -  This too shall pass. On a positive note, (not really so much positive as side effect, but I'll take it) I've lost 4 pounds. Pending clearance, pending house will do that to ya.

I ate a greasy hamburger for dinner last night - I've lost 4 lbs. It's all good :)

I'm ahead of Christmas shopping - We have so many folks we buy for that I started shopping in August. I have a little more than a handful finished. Chugging along on that front.

I'm putting my phone in my handbag tonight and enjoying a night out with my husband - I need it. We need it.

Limbo

Life for us has been in limbo lately. Literally. My clearance is still pending and our house is still pending. It's been, for a lack of better words, a frustrating time for me. I've mentioned this in numerous posts but patience was never a strong suit of mine so as the days pass they feel like weeks. It's making my anxiety crazy. But, good things come to those who wait so here goes to a few peaceful days of waiting. Hmmph.

This past weekend was nice. Busy but nice. Friday evening we hung out at home followed by a crazy Saturday. Zumbini for the Peanut, lunch with the husband's grandparents and a Halloween party to top off the night. Sunday, we visited a local vineyard with friends and their peanut and then spent the night unwinding.

The Peanut isn't sleeping through the night, or at all really, and is (we think) cutting her molars. Life has been less than pleasant with her the past few weeks. I'm exhausted, she's exhausted and we're both cranky.

I need a date night with my husband more than anything in this world. Hopefully we'll make that happen this week.

As we leap forward into the next chapters of our lives I'm hoping this period of limbo passes quickly. I'm ready.

Another Mrs.

We had a spectacular long weekend celebrating the new Mr. & Mrs. We kicked Friday night off with rehearsal dinner followed by an amazing wedding on Saturday with a lazy, Sunday (fighting a hangover). Great time had by all. Enjoy the photo dump!

Congrats to the new Mr. & Mrs. We wish you many, many years of happiness. We can't wait for you to pop out some little ones! ;)

So Long, See Ya, Sayonara

15 months ago our life drastically changed. Drastically. Our daughter was born and my husband's mother passed away. All within three weeks.

In the middle of the night, with red puffy eyes and a frog in his throat, my husband looked at me and said "I don't care what we have to do, we're moving home." I nodded my head. If the tables were turned, I would want him to be supportive. He told his Dad that night we were going to move home eventually and his Dad said to him, "Don't do anything irrational right now". The wheels in my husband's head were already grinding. It took 8 months but my husband found a job in St. Mary's and we packed up our tiny townhouse, with the help of many family and friends, and headed South.

I transitioned from the Baltimore office to the DC office, I was lucky that my bosses were flexible enough for me to continue my job in a different location. So while everything around me was changing, I still had the consistency of my job. The commute wasn't terrible when I started riding the bus, I got an hour and a half of free time in the afternoon. The commute wasn't terrible, but the time away from home was. The Peanut was ready for a bath and bed shortly after I got home in the evenings. The time she spent with my mom and husband tripled the time she spent with me at a week's end and it was KILLING me. The first time she reached for my mom instead of me when she was upset I literally almost cried.

So, when I got the opportunity for a job closer to home, one that would allow us to eat dinner as a family, one that would allow me a day off every other week, I couldn't turn it down. I am thrilled to be able to make myself more available to my girl and my family. She's only little once. The other part of me; however, is SO, SO sad.

I'm closing the door, completely, on my Baltimore life. And that makes me sad. I'm saying sayonara to a job I've been great at, a job where I make a tangible difference in other people's lives. I'm saying so long to a group of people who threw me a bridal shower and then 13 months later threw me a baby shower. I'm saying see ya to happy hours with folks that lasted way longer than they should have. I'm saying good bye to a group of people who have been my second family for 6 years, who watched me transition from a 21 year old, reckless intern to a 27 year old mother. People who have acted as second mothers and mentors but most of all friends.

Life is strange and crazy. I've returned back to a place I thought I'd never live again and honestly, I don't hate it. I'm leaving a job I never thought I'd quit. Ever. And I don't love it.  I am; however, excited for my next endeavor. I start my new gig next Wednesday, pending everything checks out okay (fingers crossed). Today I'm in DC, wrapping up the little bit of stuff I have here and Tuesday I wrap up my last day ever in Baltimore.

Ahhh... life is a beautiful mess.