The secret is out. I'm not perfect. I'm not the perfect wife, mother, daughter, sister, cousin or friend. There I said it. And I'm proud of it. I try so hard to make each and every person in my life happy that I often neglect my own happiness. That's not to say I'm not selfish from time to time because I most certainly am but the long and short of it... I'm not perfect.
Sometimes I forget to call when I'm suppose to, sometimes I have to cancel plans and sometimes I say things without thinking them through. Just this week I've rescheduled a phone date twice. Sue me. I'm human. Raising another human. Married to one. Daughter and daughter in law to three and friends with many. My life is chaotic on the best day, thanks to the tiny human (whom I love more than life itself).
My point to this, I think, is that one of my New Years Eve resolutions is to stop caring about pleasing everyone. If I can't make it to something because the tiny human has me otherwise preoccupied, so be it. If the human I'm married to needs a little us time , I will forgo the beeping calendar. While I would never intentionally causes discord between someone else and myself, from time to time I find myself there and I'm often anxiety ridden because of it. Life is too short. Things happen. Other things come up. I'm not perfect. I can't be all to everyone on the same day.
2014 is going to be a good year. I can feel it. Leaping into a New Year with positive thoughts.
Sunday, December 22, 2013
Monday, December 16, 2013
New Reflection, New Year Resolution
I was looking back over my New Years resolutions from last year and I've fallen short of just about every one of them. This year has been a whirlwind, to say the least. A career change for each of us, a major move and then another move, and a baby growing up at the speed of light.
1). I will say I half checked off the first resolution to be more appreciative. Maybe even three-fourths. I have really worked on appreciating my husband and mom more. I've tried to say thank you (and really mean it) twice as much as usual. The other night I asked my husband to do a task I knew he hated and then quickly told him I would take care of it, just because I knew he hated doing it and it was one small thing I could do.
2). Over extending myself. Major fail. Some days I feel like my head might spin off I'm so busy trying to fit my schedule together like a perfectly shaped puzzle.
3). Read 100 books. I read about 60. Not terrible. I'm actually pretty happy with that even if it fell short of my goal.
4). Lose 10 pounds. I'm pretty sad I couldn't lose 10 lbs in 12 months but it is what it is. Yoga is still calling my name...
5). Spend more time with my husband. I can check this off. We've taken a bunch of mini trips and spent some good quality time together this year.
I'm making just one resolution this year. To be more present in life. To stop rushing so much. I am uber guilty of squeezing this in here and that there and not really being "there" for any of it. I'm going to not live life behind a screen. To put my phone down more often and connect with people in real time. Life is too short; I would rather make memories than "like" memories. 2013 was a great, stressful, whirlwind of a year. Bring on 2014; I'm ready to leap into a new year. After we celebrate Christmas, of course!
1). I will say I half checked off the first resolution to be more appreciative. Maybe even three-fourths. I have really worked on appreciating my husband and mom more. I've tried to say thank you (and really mean it) twice as much as usual. The other night I asked my husband to do a task I knew he hated and then quickly told him I would take care of it, just because I knew he hated doing it and it was one small thing I could do.
2). Over extending myself. Major fail. Some days I feel like my head might spin off I'm so busy trying to fit my schedule together like a perfectly shaped puzzle.
3). Read 100 books. I read about 60. Not terrible. I'm actually pretty happy with that even if it fell short of my goal.
4). Lose 10 pounds. I'm pretty sad I couldn't lose 10 lbs in 12 months but it is what it is. Yoga is still calling my name...
5). Spend more time with my husband. I can check this off. We've taken a bunch of mini trips and spent some good quality time together this year.
I'm making just one resolution this year. To be more present in life. To stop rushing so much. I am uber guilty of squeezing this in here and that there and not really being "there" for any of it. I'm going to not live life behind a screen. To put my phone down more often and connect with people in real time. Life is too short; I would rather make memories than "like" memories. 2013 was a great, stressful, whirlwind of a year. Bring on 2014; I'm ready to leap into a new year. After we celebrate Christmas, of course!
Sunday, December 15, 2013
Weekends Fly By
The Facini's had one of the busiest weekends we've had in awhile. Friday night we took a trip to Ann Marie Gardens to check out the Christmas light display. It was worth every penny of our admission fee. If you're ever in the Southern Maryland area around Christmas time, I highly, highly recommend it. We spent the rest of Friday night cleaning and getting the house ready for our weekend guests.
Saturday, after the Peanut's last Zumbini class (we're so sad it's over but can't wait for it to start back up again! She loves it and so do I actually!) our friends from Baltimore came to visit for the night. We had a nice dinner out and they hung out with our Peanut for a bit so the husband and I could stop by my work Christmas party. After making an appearance, we came back to kill our livers for the night. I could elaborate on that but I'll plead the fifth. The empty whiskey/wine bottles can do the talking if they want... Sunday, today, was cookie making day. My mom, the Peanut and myself spent the day baking cookies and making a mess. We're experts at both after today! After all the cookie making, we took a time out to go out to dinner and then visit another light display. Such fun memories we're making with the Peanut.
And now we're prepping for tonight...if you've been reading my blog for awhile you might see a common theme-- my kid hates to sleep. HATES to sleep. My mom swears it's payback from when I was a baby. Apparently, discriminating against sleep is genetic. In fact, as I type this my child is in her crib screaming. After two months of letting her sleep in our bed and still not getting a good night's sleep, we're trying a new tactic. Per my husband. I still don't know if I have the will power to do it. Yep, you know exactly where I'm headed with this-- the cry it out method. I'm fine letting her initially cry herself to sleep, but in the middle of the night when she wakes up, half disoriented from being partially awake and cries out for us I'm not so sure I'm made for letting her cry it out. We'll see... I'm going to try my best.
As I finished typing the above paragraph, the screaming stopped. I better to head to bed now...I feel like it's going to be a long night. Enjoy a couple pictures I remember to take this weekend. I've been pretty terrible at that.
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Saturday, after the Peanut's last Zumbini class (we're so sad it's over but can't wait for it to start back up again! She loves it and so do I actually!) our friends from Baltimore came to visit for the night. We had a nice dinner out and they hung out with our Peanut for a bit so the husband and I could stop by my work Christmas party. After making an appearance, we came back to kill our livers for the night. I could elaborate on that but I'll plead the fifth. The empty whiskey/wine bottles can do the talking if they want... Sunday, today, was cookie making day. My mom, the Peanut and myself spent the day baking cookies and making a mess. We're experts at both after today! After all the cookie making, we took a time out to go out to dinner and then visit another light display. Such fun memories we're making with the Peanut.
And now we're prepping for tonight...if you've been reading my blog for awhile you might see a common theme-- my kid hates to sleep. HATES to sleep. My mom swears it's payback from when I was a baby. Apparently, discriminating against sleep is genetic. In fact, as I type this my child is in her crib screaming. After two months of letting her sleep in our bed and still not getting a good night's sleep, we're trying a new tactic. Per my husband. I still don't know if I have the will power to do it. Yep, you know exactly where I'm headed with this-- the cry it out method. I'm fine letting her initially cry herself to sleep, but in the middle of the night when she wakes up, half disoriented from being partially awake and cries out for us I'm not so sure I'm made for letting her cry it out. We'll see... I'm going to try my best.
As I finished typing the above paragraph, the screaming stopped. I better to head to bed now...I feel like it's going to be a long night. Enjoy a couple pictures I remember to take this weekend. I've been pretty terrible at that.
Wednesday, December 11, 2013
Good Times Applesauce
My weekly, biweekly posts have been stagnant. Oops. Life has just been nuts. And I used to post at work during my lunch break but given my new job, blogger isn't actually a preferred website. Shocker. Haha.
But back to our regularly tuned updates-- our Peanut is walking! All over the place!! She's still not sleeping through the night-- I'm fairly sure she doesn't want a sibling, but she's walking
She's repeating, or at least trying to repeat so much of what we say we've had to really start watching WHAT we say. The general public would probably frown upon our 17 month old shouting "Oh shit".
My new job is awesome. It's finally picked up and 9 hour days are flying by. My boss is really nice and my coworkers seem pretty nice too.
Over the weekend we visiting the Big Apple. The hubby and I spent the day wandering around the City, enjoying the local cuisine and touristy spots, including a little ice skating in Central Park. It was great to get away with him for the day. Even if we didn't get home until 3am the next morning and our Peanut was up at 7am.
Last night I took a time out from mommyhood and enjoyed "Wine and Design". You sip (or in my case, gulp) wine and paint a picture. While I won't be switching careers anytime soon, it was so much fun and it was great to catch up with some girlfriends.
Life has been pretty great lately. Thank you Jesus for things leveling out. I was starting to get a little nervous.
But back to our regularly tuned updates-- our Peanut is walking! All over the place!! She's still not sleeping through the night-- I'm fairly sure she doesn't want a sibling, but she's walking
She's repeating, or at least trying to repeat so much of what we say we've had to really start watching WHAT we say. The general public would probably frown upon our 17 month old shouting "Oh shit".
My new job is awesome. It's finally picked up and 9 hour days are flying by. My boss is really nice and my coworkers seem pretty nice too.
Over the weekend we visiting the Big Apple. The hubby and I spent the day wandering around the City, enjoying the local cuisine and touristy spots, including a little ice skating in Central Park. It was great to get away with him for the day. Even if we didn't get home until 3am the next morning and our Peanut was up at 7am.
Last night I took a time out from mommyhood and enjoyed "Wine and Design". You sip (or in my case, gulp) wine and paint a picture. While I won't be switching careers anytime soon, it was so much fun and it was great to catch up with some girlfriends.
Life has been pretty great lately. Thank you Jesus for things leveling out. I was starting to get a little nervous.
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